The upside for the young lady from Montclair who may have been a victim and a survivor by victimizing in turn? We’re not living in Russia, North Korea, Iran, Saudi Arabia or any Islamic nation where men rule with the power of life and death, India’s caste system survives, Pakistan and most parts of Africa including the Sudan. Or a farm in southern Israel which gets shelled by Hamas. Or worse by the medieval minded men who are among the Arab and ultra religious Jews in Israel who are misogynists. Imagine spitting on a nice young Jewish woman on her way to school because your version of the bible says women must wear long dresses. Or imagine you are secretly meeting a boy you should not be seeing in Pakistan or Egypt and you are stoned to death. Or worse: female circumcision. So while American children experience the humiliation and degradation of bullying which can pull a person down no doubt and the bullying is wrong and it won’t help a person to know others have it worse, but maybe someday it will help to know that other people are starving to death because someone wants their oil or their land or their lives to be rotting in a field.